![]() If you feel this way, get to another person as fast as you can. Pushing us further into our sadness and firming our commitment to even more isolation. I don't know how to act in social situations.Įven if none of these are true (which I can assure you they aren't!), when we are alone, sad and anxious, each of these thoughts can take on a life of their own, twisting through our memories to find even more evidence of why they are true. I make bad decisions, I just shouldn't make anymore. I can't call anyone because I will be bothering them. (And for some reason, our mind gets empty of all the evidence against it.) Loneliness makes us think: We remember all of the evidence that points to this fact. When we feel lonely, we feel like nobody loves us. Lonely is isolation, it breeds negative self identity, increasing sadness and anxiety. It brings a melancholy, or worse, depression. On the other hand, lonely is totally different. It is usually a sign that some has a low sense of self worth, when they feel like they should be doing things alone. Then why do we hold ourself to this standard? I'll tell you why. I don't know anyone who does everything alone. We all need each other and are there for each other. It quite accurately describes life in my family. Think of the word literally outside of recovery's negative connotation. Independence is overrated.Īlso, co-dependence has gotten a bad rap from substance abuse recovery terminology. Think of world leaders-they don't do things alone. Same for life saving doctors- they don't do surgery alone. Think of the top executives- they don't do things alone. But nobody, least of all successful people, do everything alone. We have contradictory ideas in this culture, that we are weak if we can't do things independently. It's natural to feel loneliness when you feel apart from your community ( Loneliness and What To Do About Loneliness). Collaboration is our biggest survival skill. ![]() We live in a communities because we need to. But this might be after they have gone beyond individual ego, and no longer feel separation from Oneness of the universe.īut for most of us humans, biologically and emotionally, we are social beings. Many ancient sages or meditation masters can be alone and content. Sometimes people can feel lonely in a crowded room and others can feel totally comfortable home alone all day. ![]()
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